27 Ways to Bulletproof Your Intimate Relationship: The Quick and Dirty Version

  • Listen. Don’t fix. Listen.
  • Validate her. Affirm her. Questions? Ask her for help.
  • Don’t flirt with other women. Flirt with her.
  • Talk about your feelings. You won’t die of vulnerability.
  • Clean more.
  • Hold the door open for her.
  • Don’t criticize or attack her.
  • Say you’re mad when you’re mad.
  • Remember her birthday.
  • Initiate date night.
  • Tell her she’s sexy more.
  • Tell her she’s beautiful more (it’s different from sexy).
  • Don’t avoid her during arguments.
  • Know she’s scared you don’t love her if you do avoid her.
  • Cook more.
  • Keep yourself in decent physical shape.
  • Cap the video game/watching sports time a bit.
  • Don’t bag on her to your friends – talk with her about what frustrates you
  • Make eye contact.
  • Initiate sex more.
  • Tell her you understand how she’s feeling.
  • Treat others kindly. Especially her parents.
  • Don’t bag on her friends.
  • Don’t hide your emotions. She’ll read it on your face, chap.
  • Make yourself interesting. Pick a new hobby.
  • Prevent relationship boredom before it starts.
  • Prioritize ‘us’ as a couple that’s different from being parents together.


About Jason

As "The Man That Men Will Talk To," Jason Fierstein, MA, LPC is a private practice counselor and psychotherapist for men and couples in the greater Phoenix, Arizona, area. He works with struggling men to find happiness in their lives, and with their wives.
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